How can a young person navigate such troubled waters? Like a sailor on turbulent seas, we need to look up and see the North Star: the fixed points in the sky whereby we might navigate the objective realities in life.We need the skill-set to know how to journey through life and how to select the right people to journey alongside.You will, in a moment, become a sucker of life rather than a giver of life. Nor can we offer them unconditional love on the days they are struggling, because they are our source!If it feels like I am painting this in too dark of colors, let me show it to you in the "innocent" way I discovered it in me.I had thought about that aspect of a relationship purely in selfish, self-gratifying terms. God did not wait until we were worthy before he sought us out.I realized that there wasn't much love in my imagery of sex. I remember weeping thinking about how much selfishness had shot through every aspect of my imagination as it related to romance. He didn't wait until we were organized, sanitized, religious, moral, or good.This person spoke about how Jesus Christ had sacrificed his very life for the sake of his bride, the church. I wanted to be a hero like that, so it seemed good to me.
In doing so, he forgot to pause and adjust the pressure, so when they arrived at the top they both got decompression sickness, also known as "the bends." They survived but, needless to say, they are no longer swimming buddies, or any kind of buddies for that matter. When you have a source of life, you are a source of life.
They did one of those crazy-unsafe deals where you get an hour or so crash course on all things scuba, then swim out into the ocean.
Before the dive she was paired up with a middle-aged man. They knew the emergency protocol — a series of hand gestures, sharing of oxygen, then a slow, calm ascent to the boat above.
In this book we will chart a course through the four relational phases that the vast majority of human beings on the planet will pass through in their twenties: singleness, dating, engaged and married.
In each of these phases, we will look at what eternal purposes should be pursued in each stage, and how to pursue them.