During my interviews, I realized they were describing an internal button of sorts that helped frame relationships and interactions, but didn’t have a name.I decided to call it “The Switch” and I found it so fascinating and such a crucial piece of the flirting puzzle that I dedicated a whole chapter to it in the book.The switch is particularly important in ambiguous situations.The thing that makes flirting so difficult to interpret is that it thrives on mystery.
If their crush is switched on, they have a better chance of making something happen.And if they don't want to talk to you, it's okay, you will find someone who does.They're not a bad person or a bitch or an asshole just because they're not interested in having a conversation with you.” -- the guy just needs to figure it out before the tactics are deployed.For some people, no matter what takes place in the conversation, they are interpreting it in a nice-and-friendly sort of way. These sorts of people are switched off, and they miss opportunities all of the time. This means they are always thinking about the conversation in terms of attraction – whether sexual or romantic.They probably wouldn’t think flirting is happening even if the person came right out and said, “I want to date you.” Other people are constantly seeking out and looking for clues of attraction. Their trouble isn’t spotting flirting when it is happening.