She loves your appetite for life and is intoxicated by your ambition and the fact that so much of your life is ahead of you. If you have goals and tell her about them, it will definitely turn her on.
She enjoys the fact that you’re not tainted and broken like many of the men her age. Older women have an extremely sensitive bullshit detector, so be 100% honest all of the time. If you want to have sex with her but don’t want to be her boyfriend, tell her. Believe me when I say your older woman is well aware of the age difference between you. If she brings it up, tell her your heart doesn’t care how old she is.
Put simply, a needy person doesn’t feel good inside and then saddles the other person with the responsibility to make them feel better… whoops, “my battery died, sorry I didn’t call you back last night.” Nobody’s perfect. When you boil it all down, neediness is not some set of behaviors. When a person takes on the belief that another person is responsible for their happiness, their sense of well-being and their sense of self-esteem, then it’s guaranteed that they’re going to act needy as a result of that mindset.
(FYI, we have a whole chapter on this in our new book “He’s Not That Complicated: How to Crack a Man’s Romantic Code to Get the Relationship You Want“) Even the kindest, most well-meaning, most empathetic guy won’t be able to satisfy a woman who acts needy the majority of the time. I would be pretty surprised if you never had a needy guy around you. Making someone else responsible for your emotions is a key ingredient in creating a toxic relationship type dynamic, so it’s very important to guard against doing that (as well as recognize when others are doing that towards you).
Even if she’s attracted to you, most older women will feel some guilt about your age.
You get a snapshot of his or her feelings and thus can be more understanding and empathetic.
Not so, says University of Chicago Booth School of Business professor Nicholas Epley.
In his study of 104 couples, he asked one partner to predict how the other would respond to questions on everything from the use of cash to biggest life regret.
Some of the spouses simply guessed (e.g.,"Ernie would never use a credit card! Others had to write about a typical day in their partner's life, and then "put themselves in his or her shoes" before predicting (e.g., "Ernie works so hard all day at the bank, and he resents even paying five dollars for lunch; he would never use a credit card.") The result: Those who tried to imagine the other's perspective were less accurate than those who winged it—confirming Epley's real-life experience of giving his dolphin-loving wife a day of caring for the animals at the aquarium, not realizing that, since she'd just had a baby, she would not enjoy the binding, full-body wetsuit.